Being in a committed relationship can be hard work. The hard work is well worth it, but overtime couples begin to take each other for granted and communication skills begin to weaken. As this happens one or both of the people in the relationship begin to feel resentment since their needs are not being met. This is a common occurrence and almost all couples will experience this situation. The ones that take action are the ones that more often than not are the ones that save their relationship. The best course of action for couples is to engage a trained therapist for couples therapy.
Couples therapy is when a couple engages in therapy to help resolve issues they are having and to help strengthen their relationship. A successful couple’s therapist is one who has been trained through experience. Experience is very important since treating two people who are often in direct conflict with one another adds many challenges to the therapy session.
During couples therapy the therapist is not there to be the referee. Their main goal is to facilitate behavior modification between the partners. Usually, one or both of the partners in the relationship has slipped into a cycle of detrimental behavior. The therapist will listen to the couple interact and then can re-frame the emotions of one of the partners so that they can perhaps see things from the point of view of their partner. The therapist tries to impart the couple with an awareness of the relationship so that their partner’s feelings are taken into account as they manage their own. Often times, couples become complacent in the relationship and their partner’s feelings are not honored and validated as they were at the start of the relationship.
As the therapist works to modify the couple’s behavior toward one another they will help the couple to recognize and avoid improper communication. Poor communication is almost always a key issue between couples. Over time this poor communication will undermine the relationship. Enhancing objectivity is another technique a therapist may use in couples therapy. This helps the couple to really look at their own behavior and allows them to see how it impacts their partner. The therapist will also highlight the strengths of the relationship so that the couple can recognize the positive of the relationship and not just dwell on the negative.
Couples therapy is an effective means by which many couples, from those just beginning a relationship to those who have been together for many years, learn the effective skills to bolster and even salvage their relationship. By modifying the couple’s behavior through enhancing better communication techniques, fostering objectivity, and helping each partner to become conscience in the relationship a couples therapist can make the difference between a successful relationship and failed one.
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