What Can Counseling And Therapy Do For Gay Or Bisexual Individuals?
San Diego therapists often encounter many patients who undergo an awful lot of stigma, which is associated with gay and bisexual people. Families, friends and other members of the society subject them to so much pain and sometimes they do not even understand the amount of impact they have on them. A mention of counseling and therapy to deal with gay and bisexual issues and the first thing that comes to mind is that the therapist can somehow be able to change their sexual preferences and therefore make them conform to societal standards. This is wrong!
Counseling and therapy is not aimed at changing a person, rather it ought to enable the person to accept who they are and be happy with it. A therapist can also offer counseling to the close family members to enable them to also deal with it and be able to co-exist with the others who have different beliefs in the society.
A simple definition of a gay or homosexual person is one who is sexually attracted to members of the same sex. Most people have their first gay or homosexual feeling in teenage years although there are still others who discover this much later in life. The fact that one is gay or a homosexual is not always very clear but is rather quite confusing.
These feelings can either fade away with time or even grow stronger. Presence of these feelings does not necessarily mean that one is gay or bisexual as in some cases. This is also true especially considering that most teenagers are usually willing to experiment at least once with members of the same sex! This shows just how confusing it can be when it comes to such matters.
In most cases, even when one is sure that they are gay or bisexual, it takes them time to admit this not only to themselves but also to their friends and family. This is usually due to the uncertainty of what they really feel and the fear of the judgment that they may receive from the society. Counseling and therapy is therefore, very important to help these people accept who they are and deal with it.
Gay and homosexuals also suffer through the same problems that other heterosexual people go through but they may need therapists that understand their issues because they are also quite different. A good example is the feeling of betrayal that a homosexual woman may have because of having feelings for a man yet she has a female spouse. This switching of preference is also very confusing to the individual and those around him or her.
When someone is seeking for help from a therapist concerning these gay and bisexual issues, they should make sure that they understand the beliefs of the therapist. This is important because if for example the therapist is of the opinion that the person can be 'cured' of their sexual orientation, then they might not be able to help them accept and deal with the situation well.
A well-trained and qualified San Diego therapist is one of the therapists that believe that gay or bisexual individuals should not be perceived to be someone with a problem and needs to be 'cured'. Such a therapist only believes that through therapy, that individual can really discover his or her real sexual orientation and help those involved to accept that instead of telling what's right or wrong by society's standards.